Meeting Disappointment with Truth
26 Sep 2010 1 Comment
in Parenting Tags: acheive, affirm, affirmations, beliefs, children, conscious, parenting tool, responsibiltiy, self-esteem
I just read an article by a parent and parent coach, that supports this month’s theme on building self-esteem and the use of affirmations.
As parents, we often don’t like to see our children in pain, or not get or achieve a heart’s desire. Many times the pain we feel is our own, rather than that of the child. Sometimes so much so, that the feeling we are having, and trying to ‘fix’ for the child, becomes projected, or transferred onto the child. In other words, the child ‘thinks’ this is the way they are suppose to feel, and respond to the circumstances or situation. If Mom or Dad are feeling angry, sad, disappointed that their child did not receive, or get what they deeply wanted, then the child most often begins to believe and play out this role when they meet disappointment. Whereas, if we ask the child questions, and find out what has transpired, and keep them focused on the feelings, emotions, and heart’s desire of what they want, then whatever it is they are desiring will come to them.
As a parent, and having worked with many parents, becoming aware of our projections, and trying to fix a pain, hurt, or disappointment is not teaching our children to meet these rather simple challenges in life. These ant hills become mountains when we do not allow the space for our children to become conscious, active, responsible participants in their own lives.
I invite you to read this article by Jill Hope. It is definitely a SIMPLE tool to help your child achieve any goal.
